I think anyone who suffers from a debilitating illness or disability should practice the art of extreme self care first and foremost and the reason for saying this is that if you do not look after number one, how can you look after anyone else?
Unfortunately Fibromyalgia seems to have become the disability that everyone as; for instance you go to the doctors with extreme tiredness and unable to sleep and before you know it you have Fibro, or you go with aching joints or a pulled/tired muscle with no apparent cause and before long you are diagnosed with Fibro. It is almost the new buzz-word – you can almost hear people saying; ‘I have it, do you?’
All joking aside, people are being diagnosed younger then ever before and no one seems to have a reason why it is so. So what is this art? (There is a book by the same title but i really do not like these happy-happy-clappy- books – the ones that say ‘do this or that and life will be wonderful.’)
However what does it mean for me? For you?
Firstly, you do not have to have a debilitating illness or disability to take care of yourself first, however you may have to be a little selfish – sometimes!
Second – you do not have to follow my plan, but do something or even part of something because it is better than doing nothing.
So here is a little plan! (remember the big plan, well that plan needs to be broken down into doable pieces)
- Learn something new this week
- Get out of bed and sit on a chair
- Wash your face every day
- Speak to someone face to face (not someone you live with)
- Eat 1 extra portion of fruit every day
- Meditate – start here
- Think seriously about setting a Goal that scares you
Life is tough and some days feel tougher than other. Life often feels unfair and we get frustrated and angry just because we cannot do something we need to do. After having my granddaughters come to visit several times last week i spent the weekend resting and sleeping and i had no control over it, but would i have changed my week and told them not to come? No!! Recognize your own limitations and practice the art of extreme care.
NB The Art of Extreme Self Care – Cheryl Richardson – i borrowed my copy from the library!