Suicide is Painless

Suicide is Painless

suicideActually it not!

It is not painless for the person who takes their own life…

it’s not painless for those who are left behind…

if you have a friend who is telling you they want to die and I am not talking about the joker who thinks it’s funny, please take them seriously…

especially the person who continually says it to you…

i want to die…

i don’t see any point in being here…

life is such a mess…

i don’t know how to get out of it…

i want to die!

Don’t pat them on the back and tell them to stop being stupid there is so much to live for…

but ask them why?

Why?

Why?

Why?

You have had a friend telling you for sometimes that they want to die…

but they have stopped saying it to you…

then rest assured they have made their plans and are just waiting…

for such and such to happen…

or such and such not to happen…

because then they were right all along!

When someone commits suicide it is not about you…

it is always about them…

something went terribly terribly wrong…

can you stop it?

could you have stopped it?

there is a moment just before they withdraw from you…

when they begin to make excuses to not spend time with you…

they miss school

they miss work

they begin to miss life

but just before that…

there is a moment when you can step in and stop them…

those who commit suicide feel unloved…

unwanted…

and they feel they do not belong in this world…

telling them not to is not enough…

they need you

they need a physical body there by their side

but you have to really want to be there

they need to feel wanted, loved and cared for…

know that they need help…now!

If they are your friend at school…

tell someone…

can’t tell mum and dad…

then tell a teacher…

tell another friend…

create a club…

but don’t tell everyone…

remember it is not about you!

It was never about you!

It is a false belief that more people commit suicide in winter, but most will battle the winter and when life doesn’t get any better in spring they then decide that’s it.

…that’s it…I’m done!

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4 thoughts on “Suicide is Painless

  1. Very wise – I hope this leads to someone out there, many someones out there, getting the love and support they need to help them through their troubles. And it’s so true, so often, about so many things, that “It’s not about you.” It’s about the one who needs help and the things that need to be done…(and sometimes, of course, each of us is the one who needs help).

    Sorry if that got rambly 🙂

    1. Don’t apologise. Too many young people think they are all grown up and don’t need anyone else, but having been at the bottom on a number of occasions during my life i know what it feels like to want out and what it feels like when someone finally says – Don’t!

  2. Great advice here, Beverley. I’m VERY VERY thankful someone told me when my daughter was saying suicidal things. If they hadn’t, …I don’t even want to think about it. But because they were brave and shared it with me, we were able to get her the help she needed, by the grace of God. We always have to take it seriously.

    1. My post was prompted by yet another young person taking their life before it had even begun. But it can happen to anyone, at any age i know that one all too well. I am grateful for those who have came to my rescue in the past.

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