I was reading a post of the Fibromyalgia forum this morning that asked that question. Normally i read lots, but rarely answer, as i find the whole thing depressing, rather then supportive, but today i wrote back and i thought i would share my reply here –
What type of person gets Fibro?
A manic person. Who either has a manic life style where they never stop. Yet when they think back over the months or even years before they were diagnosed they will be able to pick out signs and symptoms when the body telling them to stop. They did not stop, because they felt they couldn’t – for every reason under the sun. But in the end the body stops them – us – me. Pain is the body’s warning system that something is wrong and yet we do not heed it’s call and think we are unstoppable, but then something happens and we have to stop and then the pain takes over and yet we continue to fight the pain, instead of accepting it. If we had been diagnosed with just about any other thing that was disabling us and causing us pain, we would stop and listen to our bodies, but it’s nothing – isn’t it?- it’s only Fibromyalgia!?!
I believe the only way to live with this condition is to stop, and listen and wait until the body is ready to get better itself and for some people that may never happen. Some will always live in the worse pain and hell possible. Some will learn to adapt and cope with the pain and some will get pass it and get their lives back. But first we have to grieve for that which was lost – ourselves!
What do i think causes it? Body stress. Whether that is physical, emotional or mental stress, which we allow to build up in our lives or which others cause in our lives and we cannot let go. We are born worriers. We worry about EVERYTHING and we cannot stop, even though we know we shouldn’t. Then there is the last straw, that doesn’t break the camel’s back but breaks our backs and yet we still continue to fight and stress and worry and keep asking the question – when? When? WHEN???
I think anyone can get Fibromyalgia, but those that don’t are those that allow life to float by them.