I made a mistake and hurt a friend, but they pushed one of those buttons you never press on a broken person, they made a mistake too. You see, the friendship is new and we are still learning about each others ways. We have said sorry, but we haven’t found the peace we need, not yet anyway. So this is my way of saying I’m sorry, let’s find the peace we need to move forward.
Then yesterday I found this post on social media and it says it all for me really, so I am sharing it here.
MISTAKES VS. BAD DECISIONS
By Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus
A politician cheats on his wife, gets caught, and says he “made a big mistake.” A businesswoman omits a chunk of revenue on her taxes and says something similar to the IRS. A son lies to his mother and later fesses up to his “mistake.” These examples aren’t mistakes, though—they’re bad decisions.
Selecting the wrong answer on a test is a mistake; not studying for that test is a bad decision. The mistake was something you did without intention; the bad decision was made intentionally—often without regard for the consequence.
It’s easy to dismiss your bad decisions by reclassifying them as mistakes. It takes the edge off, it softens the blow. But it’s much worse than that: reclassifying a bad decision as a mistake removes your responsibility, making it no longer your fault. And it’s much easier to live with your bad decisions if they aren’t your fault. Consequently, you’re more likely to make the same bad decision repeatedly if you simply consider it a mistake. Such behavior is, by definition, insane.
We all make mistakes. We all make bad decisions. They are part of the human experience. We can celebrate our mistakes (failure is often the key to success), and we can learn from our bad decisions—but let’s not confuse the one with the other.