When I was a child I was often told that ‘life wasn’t fair, so get over it’. When I became a mother and my children would moan about life, I would often hear myself say ‘life isn’t fair, get over it.’ Now my children are grown life still feels unfair. Yet, is it really or is it my perception of the world that makes it seem unfair?
I am sure that people see me wandering around and wonder why I am not at work and think how unfair it is that they have to do so. And then again there are others I look at and think if only I could go to work, life would not feel so empty or lonely. We look at others and we judge them, this is an immediate instantaneous judgement and unfortunately this judgement is often wrong.
For instance; why is there a guy walking through the bus station in a dinner suit at 7am in the morning, face ashen, clothes wrinkled…just another party going heading home?
Well, he could have been!
However that was not the case. For this man had been out to dinner with friends when he had received a phone call from his father; ‘come quickly’ the call had said, before it’s too late.
In his need to unburden himself this young man sat in a drafty, cold bus station and explained how he had spent the night holding the hands of both his mother and father and his mother, quietly, slowly, silently passed from this life to the next. I felt honoured and saddened by his tail and some ten years later his words have stayed with me.
No, life is not fair, but it is always over long before we are ready for it to be so. So we should take this moment and hold it close to our hearts before it we too receive a call that say, ‘come quickly, before it’s too late.’
- what wrong do you need to put right before it’s too late?
- who’s hand do you need to hold?
A thought…do you feel that life is sometimes unfair?